Life, parents and reality

Sometimes life is not something you can fully take for granted. We all have friends and other people we know that have health issues. As we grow older that number of people seems to increase, not to mention that 2 of those people are your parents.

Yesterday we were again notified of this fact. At 7.15 we received a phonecall from my BIL. An unusual time to call, but it was about my FIL not being well. SO, of course, immediately went into have to organise and what can I do mode. As the weather is very wintery and we expected massive snow we took that into account. While FIL was taken to A&E, accompanied by MIL, SO went there taking some emergency rations and water (you never know how long the wait is), called his boss to take the day off and went to the hospital. I went to work on foot, so I would be able to get anywhere even if there was a lot of snow. We figured another person on the waiting area was not going to be helpful and my work is not far from the hospital.

I warned my co-workers and asked if they could provide a ride is needed (and if it was not snowing like crazy). Of course they would do that – I could walk to the hospital but it is 45 minutes to get there, so they were my back up. The rest of the day was tense to say the least. Lots of TXT/SMS messages and me trying to find out some answers on where to get what on the computer. At the same time FIL was tested, probed and assessed by several specialists and other medical people. By 14.00h they decided that there was no life-threatening emergency and he was allowed to go home, but to go and see his GP on Monday and have more tests done over the next few weeks. As he is not stable walking we got him a wheeled walker so he could get around the house in a safe manner.

SO got home later in the afternoon around the time I arrived home from work. He was totally drained and tense. He’d been his parents support and needed to relax and being taken care of, which I did. So this weekend we’ll be checking in more often with them. But it has given us another signal that our parents are getting increasingly more frail. We are both worried, but at the same time we know that things are as under control as the can be.

Something like this happening in our lives shows us that life cannot be taken for granted, so let’s enjoy it as much as we can.


About Gilraen

My blog is simply about my life. I moved countries for the first time in 1993. I lived in the Netherlands, UK and NZ. The initial idea was to keep my overseas friends up-to-date with what was going on in my life. The blog, like me, is always changing and evolving.
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7 Responses to Life, parents and reality

  1. I know how draining and worrying this can be in my life and you are so right, things cannot be taken for granted. It is lovely though that, in it all, you are able to provide SO with support and I’m sure the reverse is true. These are the things that get us through tough times. I hope things work out OK.

    • Gilraen says:

      FIL is now very happy that we insisted on the walker, but he’s not right and SO worried.
      All I can do is to support him. and I am glad that he allows me to worry about him.

      It is draining and it does put a stress on everybody, I just keep in mind that it is worst for FIL himself

  2. draliman says:

    I used to take my parents for granted – they were always there and always would be. No longer – I constantly worry about them and love visiting for lunch. My mum insists on giving me a “care package” when I visit – orange juice, coke, home-made chili and cake – and I love her for it.
    I hope everything works out OK for you guys.

    • Gilraen says:

      So do I :-). I do not take them for granted anymore, but try not to worry about them. Simply put; the worry takes a lot of energy and I’d rather spend that energy on having fun with them. I know it won’t last forever, but it can last anywhere between 1 day and 35 years at that age 🙂

  3. Robin says:

    Glad to hear your FIL was at least well enough to go home. It’s rough getting older, for everyone. You’re so right about not taking life (or the people in our lives) for granted. 🙂

    • Gilraen says:

      At least it was not bad enough to keep him 🙂 Today he is seeing the GP to determine his next line up of specialists as he still is too unstable to stand without the walker.

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